Sarah Kershaw has an interesting article in the New York Times called ” Family and Office Roles Mix “. It speaks of how our position in a family influences the way we approach issues at work. There have been studies to show these differences in the first born of a family as distinct from the second born and so on. The very environment in which we were brought up does to a large extent influence the way we look at things. The roles we have at home make us, in a sense, adopt those very roles at work.
I think this subject is quite fascinating. I say so because I have also seen the opposite of this take place fairly often. I have observed how some people are, at home, the very opposite of what they are at work. If at work, they come out to be snarling tigers, you may find them to be as meek as lambs at home. The vice versa is also true. Those who are tyrants at home may be as meek as lambs at work.
But I guess, that’s why they are like that. They have to make up in one place for what they perceive they have lost somewhere else. This is displacement – one of the defense mechanisms we speak of in psychology.