One of the executives whom I am coaching inevitably compared himself with others- often, seemingly, to his disadvantage. ABC had a better title, XYZ had a better house, LMN had more reasonable customers etc. In his mind, the people he compared himself with had ” advantages” which he did not enjoy. On the face of it, while this may partly be true, it did not justify his feeling of being less effective or successful as them.
Some days ago, I had a post titled ” 7 Steps To Feeling Good “. One of the points in this list was: Make valid comparisons: It is natural to compare your self with others who you feel may have succeeded more than you. Make these comparisons with care. Don’t compare yourself with others in vastly different circumstances. These comparisons are a waste of time and energy. Compare yourself, if you have to, with others like you.