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Don’t be a Perfectionist

05 Wednesday Dec 2007

Posted by Prem Rao in Executive Effectiveness

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Do you want everything to be…just perfect? Do you get irritated if things are not done according to your standards or the way you would do them? Being a perfectionist has attendant dangers.

Several recent studies stand as a warning against taking the platitudes of achievement too seriously. The new research focuses on a familiar type, perfectionists, who panic or blow a fuse when things don’t turn out just so. The findings not only confirm that such purists are often at risk for mental distress — as Freud, Alfred Adler and countless exasperated parents have long predicted — but also suggest that perfectionism is a valuable lens through which to understand a variety of seemingly unrelated mental difficulties, from depression to compulsive behavior to addiction.

“It’s natural for people to want to be perfect in a few things, say in their job — being a good editor or surgeon depends on not making mistakes,” said Gordon L. Flett, a psychology professor at York University and an author of many of the studies. “It’s when it generalizes to other areas of life, home life, appearance, hobbies, that you begin to see real problems.”

Concentrate on doing well in everything you do. But ask yourself, is perfectionism worth the efforts and time you invest?

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The Power of Honey

05 Wednesday Dec 2007

Posted by Prem Rao in Executive Health

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Minor ailments in the family – be it a cough or cold or mild fever- are a part of day to day life for the working mother.  Honey has been known to be useful to cure minor ailments for ages. Most Grandma’s  rough and ready homemade remedies include a spoonful of honey thrown in.

A teaspoon of honey before bed seems to calm children’s coughs and help them sleep better, according to a new study that relied on parents’ reports of their children’s symptoms.  “Many families are going to relate to these findings and say that grandma was right,” said lead author Dr Ian Paul of Pennsylvania State University’s College of Medicine.

The research appears in December’s Archives of Paediatrics and Adolescent Medicine.US health advisers have recently warned that over-the-counter cough and cold medicines should not be used in children younger than 6, and manufacturers are taking some products for babies off the market.

We derive our knowledge of the earliest use and importance of honey in historic times from archives of the ancient cultural states, Babylon, Assyria, Persia, India, Egypt, Greece and Rome. The oldest existing scripts corroborate the fact that bees were already domesticated creatures and honey was extensively used for food, drink, medicine and exclusively for sweetening purposes. Honey was an important commodity. Taxes and tributes were imposed in the form of payments of honey and wax. It was equivalent to currency.

Tickner Edwardes wrote about honey: “Honey is good for old and young. If mothers were wise they would never give their children any other sweet food. Pure ripe honey is sugar with the most difficult and most important part of digestion already accomplished by the bees. Moreover, it is a safe and very gentle laxative. And probably, before each comb-cell is sealed up, the bee injects a drop of acid from her sting. Anyway, honey has a distinct antiseptic property. That is why it is so good for sore throats or chafed skins.

Good honey is an ideal food, nutritious and easily digested. Professor Klemperer of Berlin claimed that a tablespoonful of honey is equivalent in nutritive value to the largest-sized hen egg. According to Professor von Bunge, 98% of the lime, iron, salt and grape sugar, of which honey contains 77%, are directly absorbed by the blood. Honey is six times richer in fuel value than milk and, in addition, it contains more inorganic substances. The flavor of honey has also a dietetic value as it induces the free flow of saliva which in itself promotes digestion.

For those of us who need to speak a lot, honey is soothing for the throat. It gives you the energy you need. Its benefits extend from the young to the old.

So next time you or your kids have a minor ailment and you look for a home made remedy, reach out for that jar of honey.

Aceing that Interview

05 Wednesday Dec 2007

Posted by Prem Rao in A Step A Day

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“I know my stuff but I am not doing well in interviews” said the young man. “I know I have lost out, but I don’t know why”.

An interview is an opportunity to project yourself. It is the last stage of a long and expensive process. People have invested time and effort to identify the best talent. To see if you match their requirements. To know how you can contribute.

You can be sure that they have studied your resume and allied papers thoroughly. The face-to-face interview is your best opportunity to speak of yourself and your achievements. Your goals and your plans.

You have but one objective: Convince the interviewer that you are the right candidate- that you fully meet their requirements..

I don’t know why the young man lost out either- but here are a few tips I shared with him:-

  • Be prepared. You know your application and resume better than anybody else- you are the one who wrote it, right? Get your facts, chronology of events and positions on issues crystal clear. You cannot be seen to contradict something you wrote about yourself.
  • Be yourself. You are at your best when you come across as being natural and authentic. Skip the fake accents and clichés. Allow the interviewer to see you as a person.
  • Be confident. Confidence is seen from the way you carry yourself. Not only by what you say but the way you say it. Speak with an assertive tone. Maintain appropriate eye contact when in conversation. Speak at a pace where you are clearly understood.
  • Be bold. Speak of issues that matter to you. Ask questions about issues you are not certain about or want greater clarity. Don’t ask questions for the sake of asking them.
  • Be honest. The worst thing you can do is to lie. If you are not sure of something say so. Don’t lie to get temporary relief. Be candid in admitting to failures or improvement areas in yourself.
  • Be positive. Cash in on what makes you unique. Project your strengths without being overly boastful.
  • Be to the point. Don’t underestimate the interviewer’s intelligence. Don’t over-explain. Your answers should be informative yet precise.

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